True Love Still Waits

My sister is finally married! It was nothing short of amazing and glorious and I thank the Lord for what He had set that day. At the age of 27, she married her first and last boyfriend. That’s right. Her first and last.

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Truth be told, my sister is an impulsive type. What she wants, she wants to get it right away. I think that’s part of her dominant personality. But despite that personality in her, there was one thing that she made sure to wait for–the man she would spend the rest of her life with.

In our generation today, everything is instant already even in relationships. Ever heard of instant boyfriend/girlfriend? But looking at my sister’s story, I can say that the line “true love waits” is still very much alive even at this time.

True love waits for the right timing. Actually, no one will be able to tell the exact and right timing in finding love. Only God knows that. But we have to understand that right timing requires being patient. More often than not, we jump into relationships without considering the moment. That’s why a lot of people would say that they met someone but just at the wrong time.

My sister waited patiently for the right time. She had a couple of suitors back when she was still studying but she knew that it was just not the right time to be in a relationship yet. School was a top priority, not love life. And this brings us to the second point.

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True love waits for the right season. It’s so important to know the season we are in. If you’re still a student, your season is about being a student. If you’re trying to get a job, then perhaps your season is getting your career started. There is a right season for everything (Ecclesiastes 3:1)–season of being single, getting married, starting a family and the list goes on.

My sister met her  husband at a season in her life that she considered fitting already to engage in a relationship. She was already a nurse then and so was her husband. She was ready for it. And I think that’s how God wants us to be–to be prepared by Him spiritually, emotionally, financially, mentally and physically.

True love waits for the right person. The thing is, right timing and right season will not make sense if you don’t have the right person. You can be at a season for marriage but if you are with the wrong person, it’s never going to be easy. There is no secret formula to finding the one. That is why we need God’s leading in this area. I have actually written about this already and you can check it here.

I know we all want things to be fast. But may we remember to exclude love with that because waiting for true love has not gone out of style.

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Dear Brokenhearted

This is probably the last thing you need right now—-another stranger talking about how to mend your broken, crushed, aching heart. Well, I can’t blame you. I know exactly how you feel. I know how sometimes you might think no one truly understands your real feelings, not even your closest friends. It’s as if no matter how much you try to listen to their sympathies, advices and comfort, you’re still feeling emotionally exhausted at the end of the day. And there you are, crying your self to sleep feeling hopeless and tired of the pain killing you inside.

I don’t know why your heart is broken at this moment: Long-time relationship ended? Loss of loved one? Didn’t get what you want? Still hurt by your past? Partner cheated on you? Still love your ex-boy/girlfriend? Complicated relationship? Got into a fight with partner? Whatever it is that’s causing the pain right now, you have every right to feel that way so. We weren’t designed to be devoid of emotions or feelings. Even Jesus’ feelings got hurt in His time.

But how you respond and your actions toward the harrowing circumstance will greatly matter. I understand the need for you to unleash your ball of emotions which is most likely made up of anger, hate, anguish, pain, vulnerability, vengeance and all the other ones you could think of. Your heart could burst up if you carry that around.

But if there’s one thing that I understand about being broken, it’s going back to the One who created you. I mean, if you think about it, if your iPhone gets damaged, the first thing you’d probably do is to go to the Apple store right? They’d know how to fix it because they made it. In the same way, when we need some fixing, we need to go back to God.

There were some that actually asked me, “How did you do it? How did you move on?” I wanted to give them well-defined answers, the ones that will really give them practical ways to move past the hurts. But I couldn’t because I know that during those gloomy days, I could only do one sure thing—-PRAY.

Psalm 34:18 “The Lord is near the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”

Remembering that verse every time I feel hurt gives me a security that God is there for me. It’s a reminder that my prayers aren’t just going to float up to the ceiling and disappear like a bubble. He hears me and even sees every drop of my tears.

Psalm 116:1,2

“I love the Lord because he hears my voice
    and my prayer for mercy.
Because he bends down to listen,
    I will pray as long as I have breath!

The process of moving on isn’t easy. It might even get harder as you continue to walk along. But as you call upon the name of Jesus, you encounter the best comfort you could ever have. You experience gradual healing and transformation, as well as peace that no one else can ever give you. You will find the joy that you’ve been looking for in Him replacing every ounce of sadness you have inside.

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Psalm 30:11,12

11 You turned my wailing into dancing;
    you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy,
12 that my heart may sing your praises and not be silent.
    Lord my God, I will praise you forever.

The truth is, in this world, you’re going to go through many heartaches.But always remember that the present sufferings you encounter are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in you (Romans 8:16-18). 

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So, brokenhearted one, wipe those tears away and begin to look at life in a new perspective today. Let Jesus take control and know that you will be okay.

(photos not mine)